The worst aspect of gender transition is relationships. What you thought was unconditional love may not be anything of the sort. Families can be unaccepting or completely rejecting. There can be hatred and total alienation. Not always; I always hope you will be lucky and loved. More than any other theme, I have chewed over the nature of love, how it can change, what it is based on, and how to find it. I have learned a lot, and after a period on my own did come to love and be loved again. I lost, and I gained in many ways. I am happy, but I do know the deep grief of how being trans turns even the closest and longest friendships or love into cold distance.
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Selected posts on love and relationships
- Detransition
- Dancing free
- What shit is
- I am seeing something very different in love
- Authenticity and the empty bed
- Trousers
- About friendship and relationships
- Lying in bed
- Departure lounge
- Unspoken
- I want my kissing gate back
- Cause, fault, blame, responsibility: an uncomfortable family
- Risk of shock: emotional charge
- Unreasonable behaviour
- Be careful what you love
- Permission? Tell me about your childhood …
- Touch
- Seeing red. Letting go (3)
- Leaving peripherals behind; letting go (2)
- Sex
- But you’re not really …
- Loss and letting go (1)
- Familiar
- A love less ordinary: Laura Newman
- Transgender relativity
- With my body
- One day
- Last night
- The column
- What am I? A riddle