The worst aspect of gender transition is relationships. What you thought was unconditional love may not be anything of the sort. Families can be unaccepting or completely rejecting. There can be hatred and total alienation. Not always; I always hope you will be lucky and loved. More than any other theme, I have chewed over the nature of love, how it can change, what it is based on, and how to find it. I have learned a lot, and after a period on my own did come to love and be loved again. I lost, and I gained in many ways. I am happy, but I do know the deep grief of how being trans turns even the closest and longest friendships or love into cold distance.
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Selected posts on love and relationships
- Why it is never over
- These books of ours
- Going Out: Eastern Germany 2017
- Basket of Memories
- Of eggs, Easter, and love
- What about the children?
- The gift, the present
- All of it
- Learning about love
- Midas disenchanted
- For your message
- For families: a summary
- The unquestioned Self: becoming Real
- Reject, abandon, release
- Because
- Mirror, mirror …
- People! Who’d be one??
- Who does she think I am?
- Show, not tell
- Suddenly, the suspended sentence …
- Come promise; compromise
- So far away
- Can you imagine a trans partner?
- Shocking
- Bloody complicated!
- Ex-communication and divorce
- Truth and reconciliation
- Not like a bone
- Please take all your belongings with you
- Calling time